…. last night was a long, long time coming….. but I am glad that it is done….

…. my little brother came over after dinner and drank a few beers on the deck while I told him stories…. giving him the small details of a time that he had missed out on….

… he even reminded me that today – my Anniversary – was the last time that he had seen our Father alive…. We’d all met up at a local church in Englewood and chatted for a short while six years ago…. and I had to break away from the meeting so that I could meet my Cousin Brad for dinner…. It was his idea to get me out of the house and celebrate my 8th Anniversary by taking me up to Calhoun’s at The Marina for the evening….. since The Missus was still working on getting her immigration paperwork in order and was still overseas, he figured that I needed the company… he was right……

…. so I told Joshua of the burial…. and how we dug the grave…. what the dirt was like…… who was there and who helped and who simply watched….. how Uncle Tony and Cousin Butch drove over to the local Wal-Mart and bought a wheelbarrow to help with moving the soil…. what the conversations were about…. who was the best digger…. small, insignificant details… but details, still….. it was a day that he should have been a part of, but couldn’t be…… so I did my best to tell him exactly what it was like……

…. we sat out on the deck until nearly midnight yesterday…. drinking and talking….. crying and cussing… and laughing....

…. I’d been wondering when we’d finally get a few drinks poured into us and go over the details…. and last night in the dark on the deck, we finally did it…..

…. It was a long, long time coming, and I am glad that we’ve now started…..

.... oh, and yes.... just in case you rubberneckers were in any doubt, my pot roast absolutely rocked......

by Eric on March 26, 2007 | Bullshit (7) | TrackBack (0) | Thinking
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Digging the old man's grave is a fitting tribute. For as much as they tried to do for us, it would be the least we could do for them.

Most snivling veals these days wouldn't even think about such a thing, much less have an idea of how much work it is to cut a swath in the earth three by eight by six feet deep.

Rock on, bro. Glad things are coming together with you and your bro.

Bullshitted by bitterman on March 26, 2007 10:15 AM

Eric, first of all Happy Anniversary, and second of all, it sounds like you & your brother had a very special night. I'm glad for you. Sorry to hear your wife wasn't around for your anniversary, though. That bites.

Bullshitted by Chickie on March 26, 2007 12:42 PM

Happy Anniversary, dear man.

...and, thank you for sharing such touching moments from your life.

Bullshitted by Jean on March 26, 2007 05:04 PM

Happy Anniversary to the two of you. Glad you and your bro got a chance to catch up on some memories.

Bullshitted by Jerry on March 27, 2007 12:28 AM

Midnight heart to hearts, with a pinch of testosterone, and a smidgen of booze...'cept for the testosterone part, it all works for me.

I think I speak for many ladies when I say that "bonding" absolutely rocks.

Bullshitted by Erica on March 27, 2007 08:19 AM

Happy Anniversary, my man...and may the memory of your Daddy be for a blessing.

Sounds like you and Joshua are covering some important Brotherly Ground. Good on ya.

Bullshitted by Elisson on March 28, 2007 12:46 AM

I'll add to the chorus, Happy Anniversary and thanks for sharing that beautiful moment. You always make me feel like I was sitting right there with you.

Bullshitted by Libby on March 28, 2007 04:53 PM