Sexy?.. no, Confident..

... I've read a few great blogs today who have responded to Christina's question... "What do guys do to make themselves feel confident and sexy?"... well, to be quite honest, I really can't answer that question... while I was getting my haircut this afternoon, I pondered the answer.. the same result kept appearing in my mind every time..

... first off, we actually have two questions here... one is "what do we do to feel confident"... and the other is "what do we do to feel sexy".... I'll tackle the latter first... let me just begin by saying that I believe there is a misunderstanding in how Men and Women perceive themselves.... how we feel about ourselves and our appearance... in my experience, during my entire 32 years on this planet, I can honestly say that I have NEVER used the phrase "I feel sexy"... I just don't think like that... I have felt horny... I have felt sexed-up... I have felt sexually spent... sexually frustrated... sexually victorious... and sexually inept.. but I have never looked in the mirror and thought... "Damn, Eric, you are one sexy beast"... that's just not who I am.... I am also notoriously bad at getting my radar to pick up women hitting on me for that same reason.. I just am not wired like that... I am polite, courteous, and friendly... (except at blogmeets).. the "sexy beast" deal does not figure into the mental image I hold of myself.. I wear cowboy boots, jeans, and tee-shirts almost every day... usually a fleece jacket too.. I am over 6 feet.. around 200 pounds... with very, very short red hair, and freckles... these characteristics do not a "Sex Beast" make... I am just Eric... your average, everyday Straight White Guy.. and I am totally cool with that... only once have I bemoaned it, and it is documented here...

.. as for the confidence, that is a different kettle of fish... in most circumstances, I know that I can take care of myself... in a bar fight... in a ship lost at sea... speaking before a crowd... or when a Server crashes.. I can handle it.... you know, I believe that I am the person I am today because of three overriding influences.. my Mother, my Father, and the United States Marine Corps... take away any of those factors, and I would not be who & where I am today....

.. but still, the question remains.. what do I do to make myself feel confident?... well, I read one of my favorite books, or I watch a favorite movie... I go to the range and pop a few targets at 500 meters... I go swimming... I cook a meal for the family... call up a friend on the phone and talk about absolutely nothing... sit back and remember that I am loved... I go back to the edge of my property, and build a fire... then sit by it, and look down at my house and the life I have built.... these things are what make me feel confident... not the clothes I am wearing, or the style of my hair.. in short, I guess I don't really DO anything... I just reconnect with parts of my life... looking at my life makes me feel confident...

by Eric on February 24, 2005 | Bullshit (8) | SWG Stories
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For me a man is s-e-x-y when he radiates confidence. Not being a man I don't know how one goes about achieving it or it being perceived as.
Although, the ugliest man in a well made suit and will get my heart pumping... two cents from the peanut gallery.

Bullshitted by shelli on February 24, 2005 07:09 PM

THAT was an excellent post!!!

Bullshitted by Christina on February 24, 2005 08:08 PM

A humble man is sexy, especially when he has the right NOT to be humble.

Bullshitted by Donna on February 25, 2005 11:05 AM

For me it's never been about looks, as those always fade over time or can be decieving. It's not about what he wears, because I've know men who wear rolexes and $1,000 suits and have black hearts.

For me it's alway been about the content of a man's character, his humility and his heart. That will make this lady swoon every time!

Bullshitted by michele on February 25, 2005 01:35 PM

Ditto, all of the above! And, Eric, you sound quite confident (and sexy) to me. :)

Bullshitted by Lolly on February 25, 2005 04:25 PM

"I am over 6 feet.. around 200 pounds... with very, very short red hair, and freckles..."

Okay if you were 11 years younger and not married... I'd be wondering if my son had started a blog... then again he's Army and you were a Marine so maybe not. *grin*

Bullshitted by Teresa on February 26, 2005 12:55 AM

i love sex

Bullshitted by veronica on May 17, 2005 04:42 PM

for me the sexy man not one how know how to make love but the one when you see him you feel it that this man he is soo sexy and he is a gentl man sametime.

Bullshitted by Fadel on June 30, 2005 12:40 AM